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Is it against the human male's nature to be monogamous? In other words, is it against his true nature to only have one partner for life, one "mate" to which he has to be faithful?

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by FancyFeast on November 4th, 2007

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  • Patti jo
    Patti jo Nov 4th, 2007 I really think that depends on the person

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  • DA BEN DAN yanggui zi COAT
    DA BEN DAN yanggui zi COAT Nov 4th, 2007 It's my nature to be monogamous.

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  • Im Alec
    Im Alec Nov 23rd, 2007 All humans are a mixture of monogamous and polygamous by nature, and how that mixture develops depends on their environment. A person who is naturally fairly monogamous who meets a partner who is the same will have no problem with life-long monogamy. If their life had worked out differently, and they had been in a different culture, they might not have been. Equally, someone who is naturally polygamous will probably philander in any society.

    I don't accept that men are naturally more polygamous than women. If we disregard gay encounters, each affair involves as many7 women as men. If most women are monogamous, the remainder must be very promiscuous. I don't think this is true; I think women are approximately as promiscuous as men. But the difference is that women keep their mouths shut about it, even in private, whereas men most to their mates.

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  • Chezter is going to save the Redheads
    Chezter is going to save the Redheads Nov 17th, 2007 I don't think it was originally, but over time our practices have made it more of a standard (ideally anyways).

    It's my personal inclination to be monogamous and I've never thought to be any other way, but I don't know if it's nature, I just think it was the way I was brought up and the experiences I've had (seeing the hurt infidelity has caused others).

    I think it has more to do with experience, upbringing, and choice, rather than nature

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  • Punny
    Punny Nov 4th, 2007 I sure hope not...

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  • FallenMan
    FallenMan Nov 4th, 2007 It is not in the males nature to be monogamous, it is actually in our nature to go and spread our sperm out around with a lot of women to get offspring.. where as women focus on one man and try to raise their baby, which would make more sense to have them want to stick to one man.. but it is not in mans nature to be monogamous.. But society has made it the norm, so we ave to go against our nature and be loyal to our spouses :).

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  • lady fuschia
    lady fuschia Nov 23rd, 2007 I don't think it's in either male or female nature to be monogamous for life - although I believe men naturally tend to want to move quicker, whereas women tend to be into one man for a block of several months before their attention shifts to a new one. (Men are promiscuous and women mate for life I think is a bit too simplistic - women do tend to get bored in relationships and start looking elsewhere after around a year or so.)
    That's not to say that we are incapable of monogamy, or that we shouldn't give it a go. Just that it's not necessarily our natural state.

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  • buxtonite ..back from the brink
    buxtonite ..back from the brink Nov 17th, 2007 yes it is ...very few animals(humans included) stay with one partner for life or even just for sexual pleasure on a one to one basis

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  • Blacknail
    Blacknail Nov 17th, 2007 Just to be a pain in the arse science geek, a theory put forward by a bloke named Miller states that humans were never promiscuous (eg. anything goes, males copulate with every female in sight), but were more polygynous (males had a number of female partners.) The evidence for this was by comparing size and weight of human, chimp and gorilla testicles, and amount of sperm per ejaculation. Miller found that gorillas had the least sperm/lightest and smallest testicles, as male silverbacks have a harem of females, so have no competition from other males. Chimps, on the other hand, had the most sperm and heaviest testicles, as they are promiscuous, and want the most chance of "fathering" a child. Humans were somewhere in the middle, suggesting evolutionarily, we used to have some competition for mates, but this had died out more with the creation of social groups and societies.

    In short, monogamy has become part of male "nature" in some ways due to Western society. It is a common misconception men used to "spread their seed and impregnate as many women as possible" because even before societies existed, males still stuck around after birth to help raise the child.

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  • dawnsummerskye
    dawnsummerskye Nov 23rd, 2007 i don't think so my husband thinks forcing me to have threesomes is stay that way

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  • highlandlass
    highlandlass Nov 23rd, 2007 I'm female and generally not monogamous, but I choose to be for the right fella if that is what he prefers and I love him enough to do it. I think you need to set boundaries in any relationship and people don't often have the monogamous discussion when they are entering into a relationship. I think most people particularly in western society assume monogamy is a given but unfortunately it's not :)

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  • Jed Merrill
    Jed Merrill Nov 23rd, 2007 Not if it is the right woman.

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  • Joel Gilleland
    Joel Gilleland Nov 23rd, 2007 Brain physiology shows that we are wired in both ways. Our drives are actually in conflict.

    Sociologically speaking it varies by culture and era.

    That said, nature can always be overcome by though and cultures change. It's a matter of choice.

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  • kittygoesmoo- engaged...finally
    kittygoesmoo- engaged...finally Dec 5th, 2008 If a penguin can do it, so can we!

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  • Sheriff Raff -Answerhag
    Sheriff Raff -Answerhag Nov 23rd, 2007 my husband sticks with me because he made a promise to God, he doesn't want to hurt me and he lacks self confidence with women. i am okay with all of these.

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  • kiwisoccer
    kiwisoccer Jan 12th, 2009 Sex wise yes
    Emotional wise no

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  • genuinethief
    genuinethief Nov 9th, 2009 it is good,best excellent to live with one partner (if male then a female will be your spouse)
    (if you are a female a male will be your spouse).

    there are no options than this . live happy with one partner this is the best . it is always against nature to go for multi-partners
    (with or without a girl's spouse's cconsent) .

    to be monogamous is good to be polygamous is eating a sweet poison .
    monogamous is eating bitter sweets for the welfare of our life .

    either be a monogamist or bachelor ,don't get spoiled and become a prostitute or porn star by allowing a penis in your anus and another in vagina.

    every move you make is counted(wrong or right)

    i am not an aetheist or theist .

    you can have a pot of good but the drop of evil in the pot makes you sit in hell forever . think good and make good .


    don't ask your personal questions here internet is not secure like you think

    i am a system admin .think trillion or more times and ask comrade

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  • AnonymousGirl
    AnonymousGirl Nov 23rd, 2007 Depends on the person. A lot of guys I know, however, have said that they want only one partner because it wouldn't be right otherwise.

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  • genuinethief
    genuinethief Nov 6th, 2009 i like and love monogamists forever . i am a male and i shall be a bachelor or monogamist . this will keep themind happy forever . you can trust science and religion but not fuevery part in that . i want monoamous relation to be certified legal only if it is made between a male and a female . a good child likes and will be loved only if it has one male and one female
    (father and mother) as parents . if humans have affairs relating adultery the punishment is unimaginable , i am sure .it will be inviting and give happiness but later the person who commits asultery is seen peaceless and unhappy forever( there are some humans who love multi partner with their spouse's consent and enjoy eroticism ,the numbers are high in women most ( i am sorry this is true). a married women wants sex with 2 at the same time with her husbands's co operation. i can reward them by cutting their heads(her,husband the third one) instantly . this wil leave the way for illegal relations .

    there are good women and good men but the bad gets spread out faster than good (yet bad fades faster than good things,that is good news)

    i wish you a straight and monogamous life else succeed a bachelor life.

    don't get fooled by these words --- modernisation,corporate cuture,professionalism .

    these split human relations and the loss is unrepairable (the output is war(trojan war))

    happy bachelor or happy monogamy life nothing else is an option

    don't get into vile human's traps

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  • bazza
    bazza Jan 12th, 2009 Yes. the male has more sex drive than the female that is why you hear women complain after a few years of marriage about the male wanting sex all the time. Just think girls, six wives means you only have to do a sixth of the work you used to do. Make love only once a week, have plenty of people to talk to. It's only because some idiot many years ago decided for all of us that more than one wife was bad. Thay was only due to his very low sex drive which made it hard for him to keep it up to just one woman. C'mon, the more the merrier. Puff puff, well maybe just two would do.

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